I don’t know how common this is to wonder, but I’m sure it’s crossed most people’s minds at some point. I know it has mine occasionally throughout my life. When and how will I die? And do I really want to know? I think it’s fair to say most people want to live a nice long healthy life and then die peacefully in their sleep.
They don’t think much of death until a family member or friend dies. That often has people reevaluate their own lives and priorities for a while, but life eventually gets back in the way. You certainly never stop missing your loved one, but you go on, and with the occasional thought, “I wonder when and how I will die.” The question is, what do you think you prefer? To know or not to know?
Now here I am, short of a tragic accident, I know how I will die. It’s not a pleasant death; that is one certainty. I will continue to waste away and lose all privacy and independence which is something that has always been very important to me. Actually this is the process of leading up to death. The best I can hope for in the final end is that I have a great hospice team to keep me well enough sedated so that I feel as little discomfort as possible. I find myself thinking of those final days at times and it can be scary. I know basically how. I just hope I don’t linger too long in the end.
Like most people who don’t know their fate, I want mine to be quietly in my sleep, albeit drug induced sleep. At this time I have less fear of the actual final day. It’s more the multiple losses and the scary feeling of not being able to breathe because of sticky mucus closing my throat with a congested nose that I experienced not too long ago. I know there will be more scares to come. Scares that can end in the feared nightmare death if not handled properly.
As for when, I’ll probably make it to my mid 40s. If I’m here longer than that, it will most likely be because I chose to have a tracheostomy. I still haven’t made that decision yet though I’m still leaning on the no side. So what is my answer to the question: to know or not to know? For me, in my position I answer yes and no. Yes, since I have been diagnosed with ALS, a disease with no cure and I know I’m dying, I want to know everything. The more I know the more I have control. I’m not a controlling person of other people, but I want to know what to expect for myself. Information is my friend.
If I was 25, or 40 for that matter without this diagnosis, I say no. If you’re alive, live like it!
My Brother and Nephew were in a band called Nevertheless. They wrote a song named Live Like We’re Alive. As a dying person I try to do that with some days being easier than others.
While alive, live like it! Click this link to the Nervertheless song.
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Until next time, take care,